重庆结婚男女之前，男女双方的婚姻大事是自由的，也是自 己作主的。重庆后生和姑娘到了十五六岁，便开始以山歌（即情 歌）为媒，吐露情思，挑选伴侣。流传至今的不少山歌就反映了 这种情况：“豆腐开浆靠石膏，纸糊灯笼靠篾条，新打木桶靠竹 筲，重庆成亲靠歌谣。” “大山砍柴不用刀，大河挑水不用瓢，好 姐不用媒来讲，山歌搭起五彩桥。” “口唱山歌心有情，对歌小郎 细细听，小郎若有真情意，就请山歌做媒人。”以歌联姻，在当时是普遍的习俗。
重庆人民每年正月举行盛大的摆手活动，在祭祀祖先、唱 (摆手歌》、跳摆手舞后，重庆姑娘和后生三三两两、成群结队， 或在场中，或在山边，唱情歌，吹奏咚咚喹和木叶，互相倾吐爱 慕情思，自由挑选情人。她们唱道：
半边茅屋不嫌窄。 他们经三年两载的对歌和交往，互相倾心惬意的后生和姑娘便互 赠“信物”，后生给姑娘送银戒指或丝帕，姑娘给后生赠布鞋或 挑花巾，便是订婚的把凭。如果出现两个后生争着爱一个姑娘的 情况，那么两个后生就要通过武艺比赛，或打靶，或射箭，或抵 杆，或摔跤等方式来裁决，优胜者便与姑娘相好下去，失败者则 自觉退出。
The marriage of both men and women was free and self - employed before the marriage of men and women in Chongqing . After Chongqing and girls arrived at the age of 15 , they began to express their love and choose their partners . Many of the songs that have been circulated to date reflected the situation : " The bean curd pulp lies on plaster , the paper paste lantern is leaning against the bamboo strip , and the new wooden barrel depends on the bamboo shoot , and Chongqing is a song . " " There ' s no need for cutting firewood in the mountains , " he said . " There is no need for a big river to pick up water , and it ' s not necessary for the elder sister to use a matchmaker . " " The singer ' s heart is emotional , and the little girl listens to the song , and if he has a true love , ask the mountain song to make a matchmaker . " It was a common custom at that time .
The Chongqing people hold a grand ceremony every year . After sacrifice to their ancestors , sing ( waving their hands ) and dancing , the Chongqing girl and the next three or two , in the group , or in the presence , or at the edge of the mountain , sing the love song , playing the drumbine and the wooden leaves , mutual love and admiration , free selection of lovers . They sang :
The moon came out and hooked ,
according to the vegetable garden radish roots ,
if that radish grow up ,
The sister grew up and grew up .
The swallow began to go to the house and looked at the house ,
take a role for a sister attachment ,
as long as the elder brother is Ken ,
The hut is not too narrow . After three years of two - year dialogue and communication , each other ' s happy afterlife and the girl gave a " message " , the latter gave the girl a silver ring or silk handkerchief , and the girl gave her a silver ring or a handkerchief , and the girl gave her a cloth or flower towel .
Besides , then the two later generations must decide through the martial arts contest , or target , or shoot the arrow , or the rod , or wrestling , etc . , the winner will be better with the girl , and the loser is out of consciousness .